February 27, 2013

GIVE WITHOUT HAVING ANY EXPECTATIONS OF EVER GETTING ANYTHING IN RETURN!

Do you set yourself up for disappointments? Maybe, you are wondering what I actually mean. Do you get upset when people don't do what you "think" they should do, or if they do not react how you "feel" they should react? Recently, I learned a valuable life lesson that I was setting myself up for many disappointments in life. My feelings would become extremely hurt if people would not care about my family like I might care about their family. Depression would overtake my soul if friends and family members would not treat my family like I might treat them. Sometimes our expectations of others only lead to disappointments.

In the past few years, my feelings have become crushed, because my family was not invited to any kind of family functions. There have been birthday parties for our nieces and nephews, there have been baby showers, there have been weddings, and who knows what other functions that my family was never invited to. When my family found out about these functions, the feeling of exclusion overtook me. I began to sink into a dark, deep hole. However, what I didn't realize during that time was that I was setting myself up for my own disappointment. Just because I may invite everyone I knew for any kind of function that my husband and I may be able to host does not mean that others will include our family in their affairs. Just because I might be willing to go an extra mile for a friend or family member does not mean that anyone would ever be willing to go the extra mile for me. I needed to learn to accept this truth, so I could heal and move on with my life.

Having expectations for other people may only lead us to our own disappointment. Always remember that just because we may be willing to do for others does not mean that those people will ever do for us. Give without having any expectations of ever getting anything in return!

February 24, 2013

ONLY LOVE CAN DISTINGUISH HATE!

Do you have people in your life who don't like you very well? Are there people who stay away from your immediate family members because of the way they feel about you? These are a few of the things I have gone through in my own life. One thing we want in our lives is to be accepted by our extended family members; however, sometimes this does not happen. For instance, when I was born, many of my half-siblings were not too happy that I came into the world. For years, I had to be surrounded by their hate and animosity. I never understood while I was young why my brothers and sisters hated me, so as time went by I accepted their hate on a personal level, and I began to blame myself for why my brothers and sisters stayed away from my mother and father.

There were many times in my life where I was angry and resentful toward my siblings for not accepting me as part of the family. Instead of being accepting of their feelings toward me, I tried to force them to like me. I tried to force them to treat me like a sister. I was notorious for starting arguments and creating drama. What I didn't realize is I was treating the situation in the wrong manner. Hate cannot be distinguished by the return feelings of hate. Hate can only be squelched by love! ♥

Today, I don't have an extended family. However, I don't feel hatred, resentment, anger, or animosity toward my extended family members who have chosen not to accept me. Instead, I send them all peace, blessings, and lots of love, and I wish them the best in their lives. There is one thing that my husband has taught me in the 23 years that we have been together, and that is we cannot force people to love us or even to like us. However, that doesn't mean that we have to return those unkind feelings. The late, great Martin Luther King Jr. once said, "Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that!"

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February 12, 2013

LETTING GO CREATES PEACE WITHIN!

What are you holding on to that is causing you pain? Is it unforgiveness, resentment, anger, animosity, or any other negative feeling that is taking control of who you are? What can you let go of that is taking up too much space within your mind? Once you let go of all the negative, a peace will take up residence within your soul. Let go and welcome the peace within!

For most of my life, I was holding on to situations and circumstances that were not beneficial to my well-being. Holding on to all that negativity was causing me great stress as well as depression and unhappiness. At the start of 2013, I decided that my motto for the year would be, "Let go!" Let go of what you might ask? Anything that does not serve or help me in a positive way. 

Do you know what has happened since I have "Let go?" My mind is no longer preoccupied with incessant negative thoughts. I no longer try to be part of different social groups. I have finally accepted how others feel about me. Fitting in no longer seems very important. I am happier, the depression has ceased, I laugh more, I smile more, I no longer care so much what other people think, especially about me, I have accepted me for who I am. I have finally "Let Go!" Try it and find your peace within! ♥

February 9, 2013

LIFE LESSONS CAN BE LEARNED EVERY SINGLE DAY IF YOU ARE RECEPTIVE TO WHAT THE UNIVERSE IS TRYING TO TEACH YOU!

Do you fight the same battles day after day or year after year? Do you find yourself going around the same mountain all the time? I learned a little lesson about a year ago, and that is we will face the same battles over and over again until we are ready to accept and learn the lesson. This lesson has helped me immensely, and some very old wounds have finally healed. Life lessons can be learned every single day; however, you need to be receptive to what the Universe is trying to teach you!

For many years, I could never figure out why I would always get sucked into other people's drama. I was constantly being blamed for situations in which I had no control over. Then one day I was reading Mike Dooley's, Infinite Possibilities, and he said what I said above. We will continue facing the same battle until we are ready to learn the lesson. Then as time progressed I could understand why I was facing the same battles and going through very similar situations on a regular basis. It was because I was failing to learn the lesson each time I faced the same battle. Then I learned how to walk away from the drama, and how to not allow negative situations into my life. I had finally learned the lesson.

If you are finding yourself in similar circumstances where it seems that you are facing the same hardships over and over again, maybe the Universe is trying to get your attention and trying to teach you a lesson. Open up and become receptive to what the Universe (God) is trying to teach you! ♥

February 5, 2013

 LET GO OF WHO YOU USED TO BE, AND EMBRACE WHO YOU HAVE BECOME!

Have you made mistakes in your past? Of course, you have! We all have! It's part of being human! It's part of learning and growing! Without our mistakes, we could never figure out who we don't want to be, and we could never emerge into the beautiful, changed being of our future! Let go of who you used to be, and embrace who you have become!

May I tell you a little secret? There are people in this world who will never recognize you for who you are today. They will criticize and ridicule you for who you once were. Do you know what you need to do when this happens? You need to walk away from those negative beings! You need to respect yourself enough that you are no longer going to allow the thoughts of others to affect your life! If they cannot forgive you for the mistakes you made in the past and if you have truly proven that you have become someone new, then all you can do is forgive yourself for your past mistakes and move on! You no longer need to prove your worth to anyone else!

Our past mistakes are merely stepping stones which have led us to where we are today! Do not judge yourself and never allow others to judge you for who your once were! You no longer live in the past, and you no longer have to pay for the mistakes you once made! Haven't you suffered long enough? Let go of the past, forgive yourself and those who judge you, and embrace the new you!