July 28, 2016

LET GO OF WHAT WAS!

EMBRACE WHAT IS!

Are you holding on to past hurts? Are you living in the past? Are you still suffering from hurts from 20 years ago? These are all questions that came to my mind after reading my last post! There comes a time in our lives when we have to let go of what was and embrace what is!

Embrace the blessings that you have today! Look around you right now and count your blessings! I am sure there are many! Take one day at a time! Learn to smile! Love those close to you! Life is short! Don't spend you time thinking about yesterday! Finally let go of what was! Embrace what is!

ONE LIE CAN DESTROY A REPUTATION!

Has anyone ever lied on you? Has anyone ever taken your words and used them out of context against you? One little white lie can ruin an innocent person's reputation for the rest of his or her life! These innocent people then go through their lives trying to prove their worth to the people who lied against them. The next time you think it is okay to use another person's words against them, or you decide to rearrange another person's words to meet your own needs, think twice! That lie you are about to tell may ruin another person's reputation forever!

This happened to me about 20 years ago! Someone decided to take my words out of context and tell other people things that never came out of my mouth. It didn't matter what I said to defend myself. Everyone who was told the lie believed the person spreading the lie. Friendships and relationships were lost forever because of misconstrued information. 

I spent many years of my life trying to prove that I am a good person to these people. All I ended up doing was making things worse and making myself look like an idiot, because nothing I would say would make anything better. What hurt me the most from the entire situation is someone I cared about very much went to their grave hating me because of this lie. 

What have I learned from this circumstance? I have learned to be careful who I speak to and what I say to them. Now, I get blamed for being "stuck up" when I am around certain people, because I refuse to speak or if I do speak it is very minimal. I've been blamed for saying things that I never said, and I never want to be put into that kind of situation ever again! 

Even though I have been lied about, and this one lie has created a rift between myself and many other individuals, I forgive the person who lied on me. You may ask..."Why do you forgive them?" I forgive them, because I have to forgive them in order to move on with my life. Everything bad that has happened to me is a life lesson! Valuable life lessons can even come from a lie that is used against you. Don't allow the negative that happens in your life to turn you into a bitter human being! Learn from it and grow from it! Never allow the negative to define who you are! I am a good person with a good heart, and if there are people from my past who want to believe otherwise then it's their loss not mine! I release the hurt and move on! 

Drama can only exist in your life if you allow it in!

Do you ever wonder why you get roped into everyday drama with family and friends? I wondered that about my own life for years! I was always getting blamed for things I did not do or say. One day, I was talking to my husband and telling him that I couldn't understand why I was constantly getting blamed for things. His answer was, "Because you are allowing it to happen!" I was allowing the drama in my life. The light bulb went off in my head! I didn't need to allow the drama in! I could walk away! That is exactly what I did! I walked away, and the drama ceased to exist! Drama can only exist in your life if you allow it in!

LEARN TO ACCEPT THE APOLOGY THAT YOU WILL NEVER GET!!!

There always seems to be that one person in our lives who continuously hurts our feelings. They will say and do things that truly hurt our feelings. However, in their minds, they have done no wrong. Recently, a family member hurt my family's feelings. When I called out the family member and told her that she hurt us, her response was, "Oh well, it's in the past." No apology was given, and she will never give us an apology. 

I invited this family member to my family's home for Christmas dinner. She has come to every Christmas dinner at our home for the past seventeen years since my Dad passed away. Well, this year, the family member never even returned my phone call. Christmas came and Christmas went, and she never even called my son to wish him a Merry Christmas while he was home for Winter break from college. So, my little family of three celebrated Christmas alone this year. 

This family member depends on my family for everything, and when she hurts our feelings, she thinks nothing of it. She feels that my family should continue to do for her like we have always done regardless of how she may hurt us. She will never apologize, and she just keeps moving forward like nothing happened. I will never receive an apology for her ignoring my family on Christmas. I have to accept an apology that I will never get!