Wednesday, July 20, 2016
ONE LIE CAN DESTROY A REPUTATION!
Has anyone ever lied on you? Has anyone ever taken your words and used them out of context against you? One little white lie can ruin an innocent person's reputation for the rest of his or her life! These innocent people then go through their lives trying to prove their worth to the people who lied against them. The next time you think it is okay to use another person's words against them, or you decide to rearrange another person's words to meet your own needs, think twice! That lie you are about to tell may ruin another person's reputation forever!
This happened to me about 20 years ago! Someone decided to take my words out of context and tell other people things that never came out of my mouth. It didn't matter what I said to defend myself. Everyone who was told the lie believed the person spreading the lie. Friendships and relationships were lost forever because of misconstrued information.
I spent many years of my life trying to prove that I am a good person to these people. All I ended up doing was making things worse and making myself look like an idiot, because nothing I would say would make anything better. What hurt me the most from the entire situation is someone I cared about very much went to their grave hating me because of this lie.
What have I learned from this circumstance? I have learned to be careful who I speak to and what I say to them. Now, I get blamed for being "stuck up" when I am around certain people, because I refuse to speak or if I do speak it is very minimal. I've been blamed for saying things that I never said, and I never want to be put into that kind of situation ever again!
Even though I have been lied about, and this one lie has created a rift between myself and many other individuals, I forgive the person who lied on me. You may ask..."Why do you forgive them?" I forgive them, because I have to forgive them in order to move on with my life. Everything bad that has happened to me is a life lesson! Valuable life lessons can even come from a lie that is used against you. Don't allow the negative that happens in your life to turn you into a bitter human being! Learn from it and grow from it! Never allow the negative to define who you are! I am a good person with a good heart, and if there are people from my past who want to believe otherwise then it's their loss not mine! I release the hurt and move on!
Posted by Liz D'Orsi at 11:11 AM
Sunday, January 24, 2016
Do you ever wonder why you get roped into everyday drama with family and friends? I wondered that about my own life for years! I was always getting blamed for things I did not do or say. One day, I was talking to my husband and telling him that I couldn't understand why I was constantly getting blamed for things. His answer was, "Because you are allowing it to happen!" I was allowing the drama in my life. The light bulb went off in my head! I didn't need to allow the drama in! I could walk away! That is exactly what I did! I walked away, and the drama ceased to exist! Drama can only exist in your life if you allow it in!
Posted by Liz D'Orsi at 2:26 PM