February 8, 2011

"STOP BEING OTHER PEOPLE'S SCAPEGOAT!"

Have you ever found yourself being blamed for situations in which you had no control over? Do you ever accept blame which is not even yours in order to keep peace among friends or family members? A person who accepts the blame for a situation in which he or she has no control is called a scapegoat. Well, I say from this day forward, stop being the scapegoat.

All my life I have struggled with being the scapegoat for someone. There always seemed to be some kind of drama surrounding me in which I never asked to be part of. However, one does not have to live a life of accepting other people's blame. One does not have to be a scapegoat forever. Being a scapegoat is a personal decision, and once you have had enough, and you finally take a stand to those doing the blaming, those doing the blaming will be forced to find another poor soul to blame. If you do not play into the blamer's drama and negative behaviors, he or she will be forced to find someone who is willing to play the games.

Lots of times when people have a low self-esteem, they will take the role of scapegoat in order to try to fit in to a group. However, most times the group is never fully accepting of the scapegoat, and the scapegoat still remains an outsider while looking into the group's activities. Even if the group finally allows the scapegoat "in" before long the scapegoat will be blamed for somthing else and once again pushed to the wayside.

Don't even get involved with such behavior. Love yourself for who you are! You don't need a nonaccepting group to prove your worth! As Joel Osteen always says in all his books, "You are a child of the Most High God!" DO NOT accept blame for something in which you have no control over! Stop being the scapegoat to people who do not want to accept their own responsibilities!